With a Little Help from My Superfriends

15 Feb

I want my son to like superheroes.

I don’t much care if he gets into comics or not; I never did and it didn’t stop me from digging the heroes they created. Besides, if anything, today’s superhero-saturated culture makes it easier than ever to get exposed to comic book characters without actually reading comic books. And I’m not worried that my son won’t go through a superhero phase at some point. He’s a little boy; whether caused nature (genetics), nurture (my guidance), their sheer prevalence in today’s pop culture or just the natural law of childhood, it seems pretty likely that he will. I certainly won’t stop him.

But I may try to steer him towards one superhero in particular…

I love Superman. I like other superheroes too, particularly Spider-man, and I like Batman just fine, even though there’s nothing technically “super” about him. As I said, when I was a kid I wasn’t into comics; I had some, I liked some, but I wasn’t obsessive about them and I totally missed the graphic novel era. So most of my early exposure was through Saturday morning cartoons (the Justice League, Spider-man and Friends), live-action TV shows (The Hulk, Wonder Woman, Spider-man) and movies (Superman).

Over the past 10 years, previously obscure heroes – or at least characters that were marginalized merely by being constrained to comic books – have emerged into pop culture in prominent ways. As such, my son is going to have a lot more choices. And I’m not sure that all of them are super (sorry) appropriate for a little kid.

We identify with different heroes at different ages, and under different circumstances (see this perceptive article here). As a teenager it’s definitely easy to get seduced by grittier heroes that reflect a more complicated, more cynical, less “square” viewpoint; I fell for that whole false “wisdom” thing too, I just did it via Ayn Rand and Bret Easton Ellis and other bullshit that screams “edgy” and “sophisticated” when you’re thirteen. Kind of like Batman.

Whatever. I like Batman, so relax. I loved the show as a kid, ridiculous as it was, and I like the Batman movies. I even like the whole “disturbed vigilante” thing he’s got going on, but not all superheroes are appropriate for all ages, and as the father of a toddler, I think I’ll stick with Superman for now. And for the same reasons so many people claim he’s boring: he’s square, he’s a boy scout, he’s invincible, etc.

(I’ve written before about my issues with the idiotic “Superman is boring” argument; it’s lazy and overdone and just plain wrong. If you can’t write a character in an interesting way, it’s not the character’s fault, it’s yours. Prefer other heroes all you want, but discounting Superman because he’s “boring” is nonsense. YOU’RE BORING.)

That’s all true, for the most part. He is square. He is a boy scout. He does the right thing, he doesn’t kill people, he stands for something, he’s borderline invincible, etc. Is he an anachronism? In today’s increasingly cynical world, does he still have a place? Can he even fight for the American Way when no one can even agree on what the way is anymore? Who cares!

While those things might be problems for adults who consider Superman too childish for their sophisticated tastes (and for unimaginative writers who can’t seem to find some conflict without stripping the Man of Steel of excitement), they make him the perfect superhero for young kids.

For one, he’s not disturbed or tortured (usually). He can be – and it might even be compelling to see (not in the Superman III way, though that was pretty funny) – but he’s mostly not. He’s generally happy and kind and selfless and friendly.

When my son gets older, dissecting what Superman means and intellectually considering the nuances – or lackthereof – in the character may well be quite interesting to him. But right now? He just needs to see the good guys win. Superman is the ultimate good guy, which makes him a perfect role model for my son.

God knows, when it comes to being a role model I, like Charles Barkley, tend to fall somewhat short. Superman makes for solid backup. Not sure a rage-based monster or a self-loathing bat fetishist are good alternatives.


5 Responses to “With a Little Help from My Superfriends”

  1. @lukerushly February 16, 2012 at 2:26 pm #

    We bought my son a bunch of Batman cartoons for his 4th birthday. And then started to watch them. I just about knocked my boy down the stairs in my attempt to quickly shut it off. It was crazy violent and all of the women were whores and so I decided that maybe Batman just wasn’t the way to go (though I did buy him the Batman movie with Adam West, which he loved). So we pretty much stick with Spider-Man in our house. I think my son likes him because his costume is cool and he can climb walls, a skill that my boy likes to practice daily. Plus, Peter Parker is a science dork, which my son relates to as it is also his obsession. I’m pretty okay with my kids wanting to save people. A noble career path, whatever route they choose to take!

    • Dad and Buried February 16, 2012 at 2:37 pm #

      Ha! All the women ARE whores in Batman. And increasingly in comics across the board, from what I’m hearing.

      I liked Spider-man a lot as a kid because it looks so FUN to climb walls and swing around like he does. But the science angle is a good point – dude’s got smarts! Gotta be careful your kids don’t pick up on all the back-sassing he does though. Spidey’s a wiseass little punk!

      • @lukerushly February 16, 2012 at 2:43 pm #

        Well, he’s going to pick up on how to be a wiseass from his dad anyway, so I’m not going to worry to much about it!

      • Dad and Buried February 16, 2012 at 4:24 pm #

        Ain’t that the truth.

  2. C.C. January 7, 2013 at 10:55 am #

    Hmm, if you want to be a good influence on your son, maybe you should abstain from calling women whores, fictional or otherwise. 🙂

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